Communication Skill: Being Taken Seriously

So often in communication training, people tell me that they don’t feel like they’re taken seriously. They tell me they think they’re too friendly or too informal. They tell me they struggle to communicate clearly, so people don't listen. They want more executive presence. (Big buzzword right now.) 

I get it. I’ve felt it! I’ve felt small when I’m trying to show up big. I’ve felt ignored. I’ve worried that my ideas weren’t being heard because I’m the only girl in the room, or because I smile a lot, or because sometimes I say “um” sometimes. 

What I’ve learned and seen be effective for people, again and again, is that confidence is the key. Confidence isn’t something we’re given after we've achieved enough — it’s something we practice and learn. And with more confidence, we will feel more comfortable commanding the attention that our ideas and thoughts deserve. 

Building confidence is key to being taken seriously – but – it's something we can practice. It's a JOURNEY. We don't have to wait until we feel confident; we can practice different things that help us to become confident. 

Communication Skill: Practicing Confidence

When you communicate with confidence, people are more likely to take you seriously and listen to what you have to say. And while there’s no magic pill for confidence, there are things that you can practice! 

Here are some ideas you can try on as you find what works for you. 

Tip #1: Go all in on your posture. 

If you’re focusing on your confidence, one thing you can do is embody it. Think about how you might show up bigger and more confidently in the moment. You can try sitting up straighter, or standing up straighter. You can try maintaining eye contact (or, if that’s hard for you, focusing on people’s foreheads—they can’t tell the difference.) You could try minimizing fidgeting – if you need to move, try taking notes. 

These changes in your posture and behavior help you show up as confident and ready to engage – and they’re also things you can try on even if you’re not feeling confident yet. It takes practice! 

Tip #2: Practice strong, clear language.

Anyone who’s taken Public Speaking 101 has been told to avoid filler words. Terms like "um" or "like" can be distracting. But I would hate for you to focus on those if it’s distracting to you. 

The most important thing is to use strong, clear language that gets your point across without hesitation. If an “um” slips in every now and then, it’s not the worst thing. It’s more important to remove terms like “I think” or “if it’s okay…” 

The best way to improve the strength of your language is to practice. Pay attention to your emails before you send them – try removing phrases that aren’t strong. Practice sharing stories or ideas without starting with weaker phrases like “Maybe”. 

Tip #3: Breathe

If you find yourself speaking quickly or getting tongue-tied, slow down. Take a deep breath, and then take your time exhaling. (Most of us don’t breathe OUT enough!)

Relaxing your body will help calm your nerves and allow you to speak more clearly. 

Remember, there's no need to rush - take your time and deliver your message with confidence. It’s all a practice. You’ll have more than one chance, and as you practice, you’ll get better and better. 

Communication Takes Practice

Building confidence is key to being taken seriously – but be kind to yourself. It takes time! And sometimes, we might feel really confident in one situation but not into another. 

When you want to show up big but aren’t feeling it yet – try these tips. Walk into a room, stand up straight, and make eye contact. Use strong, clear language, and slow down if you start to feel nervous. Be kind to yourself, and remember that you have more than one chance. With practice, it’ll get easier. 

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